One encourages the arts and mastering what makes the child happy one encourages academia and happiness will come from mastering something One said mastering academia will lead to a successful child which will make the child happy later in life. The other stated that being successful will not always lead to happiness The parenting styles and techniques of Amy Chug verses that of Hanna Rosin describes the East v West idea that parenting should be restrictive/strict discipline v free willed/encouragement. In that Ms.
Rosin takes up the notion hat in America the free will of the child is within the encouragement of a child’s choice be it, playtime, sports, and arts to make a successful student and is the end productive adult. Ms. Chug takes up the notion that in Chinese parenting the strict adherence to discipline and long hours of practice makes a child prepared for society and a successful adult in society. An example of this is the ladies opinion of playtime v constant practice. Ms. Rosin mentioned that ‘Hanta privileged American children need is not more skills and rules and math drills, They need to lighten up and roam free”. Ms.
Rosin believes that a child should be able to gain his/her skills in life without the notion that a parent needs put harsh restrictions upon said child to accomplish the skill. Ms. Rosin points out that constant practice to the tune of 8 hours a day has left the adult lacking any appreciation of the instrument that she spent long hours practicing each day Of her youth. The notion that “children on their own never want to work” which Ms. Chug elaborates is a difference to Ms. Rosin notion that “children have to find their own happiness themselves”. The notion at hand here is what makes a happy hill a happy productive adult. Which both women make an argument on which is a happier child. The demand for As verses the notion that Western parent coddle their children to get what ever grade they achieve. The notion that name calling children such term like “garbage” or your a fatty will encourage a child to change their habits is also a difference in culture. The notion that western parents care about a child psyche and a Chinese parent does not is a huge contrast between parenting skills. The Chinese parents assumes strength from the start and Ms. Chug mentioned that western parents do not. Ms.
Chug points out that ‘ that Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you are good at it”. This comes from the strict discipline as Ms. Chug points out making a child practice very long hour. Ms. Rosin does not think and points that that such long hours lead her friend to not even appreciate classical music Ms. Chug mastering the skill is the process to a happy child verses Ms. Rosin’s the child should enjoy the process of learning something. It was interesting that one parent blame on the others parenting skills. The parent in the end is to be blamed pursuant to Ms. Chug’s opinion and Ms.
Rosin appeared to be defending the western style instead of charging why is it a better model. While there are success stories on both sides of the pond. What should be pointed out is that in any child there is no one foolproof way to make a successful productive adult. Each society has huge difference in parenting skills and also what is acceptable as a parent skill (calling a chill garbage may be abusive in western society). Control over your child per Ms. Chug will produce a perfect child is a notion that works in Chinese parenting but it may fail in most western child rearing practices.