Marriage is a durable conjugal union between a man and a woman that serves good of children, the good of spouses, and the common good of society. Marriage is the grass root of a family (household, consisting of parents and children). Marriage is the foundation of a productive household in the fool lowing ways; * Individuals who are married have a greater drive to work as they are the providers for their families.
They therefore work hard in order to ensure their families live as comfortable lives as possible compared to single or cohabiting individuals only work hard in order to attain what is DOD for them and not for the family as a whole. * Marriage increases the chances of an individual to get employed. People who are married with children have qualities such sense of responsibility as honesty and self-drive which they apply at their fields of work making them productive. Married individuals involves sharing of responsibilities among the family members. The children perform duties such as house chores, therefore learning how to be responsible thus applying this in their lives. They therefore end up being productive by learning how to work with other members of society for a common good. Marriage has proven to be the most effective way to transform a man into husband/father and a woman into a wife/mother and to ensure that a child will know and be cared for by his biological parents.
The married parent-children relationship is not only the best way to guarantee that these children will be provided with the basics of life such as food , shelter, and clothing but also that they will be nurtured and raised in ways that will make them responsible and contributing members of that society. * Married partners establish a safe and secure nest in which the children can be reared to grow up into healthy adults. The children grow up in the full-time presence of parents and bask in the deep emotional support that they require from adults for their psychologically healthy development.
While the father ensures discipline, general guidance and physical security for the children, the mother offers them soft emotions such as tenderness, intimacy and affection. * Marriage ensures stability in a family. The economic resources in such a family are not limited thus reducing the chances of living in poverty as compared to single-parent families where especially the children and women have a high risk of living in poverty. Children raised from married implies will work hard in life thus reducing poverty levels in the society.
Children living with their two married parents receive desirable education, attain good grades, have higher college aspirations, and better attendance records than children in one-parent families or who experience family disruption. With the education they acquire they have greater chances of being employed in life thus becoming productive members of the society. Furthermore, children from two-parent (married) families are less likely as children in single-parent families to have emotional or behavioral problems such as use of illegal drugs and alcohol.
This is because their parents teach them values from a tender age thus later in life when they are adults they will be able to implement those values in their day to day lives which involves decision making. In conclusion families that are based on marriage produce productive individuals. It is in the family that children learn to become citizens, learn about relationships and learn about what is expected of them in society, how to act and how to be. . QUESTION 2 serves good of children and the good of spouses too. It is a permanent lifelong union between one man and one woman encompassing total commitment of fidelity and complete sharing.
On the other hand cohabitation is an arrangement where two people who not married live together in an intimate relationship. It has limited, ambiguous commitment, without clear, binding obligations. Its usually of a temporary nature. Cohabitation has the following impact; * Child abuse. Children whose parents are cohabiting are more likely to be abused than children living with their married natural parents. Children living with their mother and a cohabitate who is not the child’s father can be abused mentally, physically or sexually as the cohabitate does not put in mind the child’s welfare. Sexual behavior. Cohabiting does not involve commitment therefore an individual may have more than one sexual partner these increases chances of being infected with the sexually transmitted diseases such as HIVE/AIDS. Unlike in marriage where commitment to each other is involved and have only one sexual partner there are no or less chances of getting sexually transmitted diseases. Such sexual behavior may lead to moral degradation in children as they will emulate what they see their parents doing and therefore these may lead to promiscuity. * Divorce.
Individuals cohabiting are more likely to end up in divorce after marriage. This is because in cohabiting, the commitment factor lacks, therefore one is free to walk away once the relationship is not to their liking. This therefore leads to an unstable marriage once the individuals get married. * Abortions. Cohabit Eng women are more likely to have an abortion than married women. This is because in cohabitation, the basic needs and resources are limited; therefore once a non-married woman gets pregnant they will be unable to cater for the needs of the child therefore opting to abort it. N addition, the pregnant woman may be rejected by her partner; therefore in fear Of rejection she may abort the child. This affects the society in that the aborted children could have ended up being very productive members in the society. Cohabiting should therefore not be accepted in our society as it affects the individuals and the children involved in the long run. QUESTION THREE Divorce or separation is a life-transforming experience. Childhood is different. Adolescence is different. Adulthood, with the decision to marry or not and have children or not is also different.
Whether the outcome is good or bad, the whole trajectory of an individual’s life is profoundly altered by this experience. Children are developing physically, socially, emotionally, educationally, morally, and spiritually and divorce or separation can affect children in each of these developmental areas. These are clearly seen in our society today. * Rejection between parents increases the risk that children will suffer from psychological and behavioral problems. Troubled children are particularly likely to develop problems with anger, disobedience, and rule violations.
School achievement also can suffer. Other children become sad for prolonged periods of time. They may become depressed, anxious, or become perhaps overly responsible kids who end up caring for their parents instead f getting cared for by them. This is visible in our Country today as most criminals are from poor family backgrounds where their parents are either divorced or separated. * Children who experience the divorce or separation of their parents generally are more likely to struggle socially compared to children from intact families.
They are more likely to be aggressive, have poorer relationships with same-age children, and have fewer close friends. These children and teenagers appear to be less involved in extracurricular activities, such as sports or music, and other enrichment programs, such as after-school classes or summer programs. This is likely due to less money to pay for such activities, less availability of parents to drive the child and attend lessons and events, more frequent moves, and visiting and custody schedules that interrupt participation in class and in team sports and other activities. * Parenting behavior.
The quality of parenting children from divorced or separated families receive is probably the most important factor. Children especially teenagers in Kenya today who experience the divorce of their parents may end up getting less parental supervision. As a result, these hillier may be more susceptible to the influence of their peers and this increases the chances of them getting involved in deviant behavior, including drug and alcohol use and smoking. * Academic performance may suffer if a child is experiencing stress or acting rebelliously as a result of parental separation and divorce.
Parents may be less able to carefully monitor the child’s performance in school because they may have less time and energy to devote to their children. In addition, divorced parents are less able to afford materials for their children that may facilitate academic success. More uncial strains may also force families to live in neighborhoods in which school programs are poorly financed and services are inadequate. * During the separation or divorce period, children may end up having a wrong perspective about marriage as they are not taught the importance of relationships especially marriage by their parents.
Due to the divorce or separation, parents will not have enough time to monitor their children; children will not understand how conjugal love is to be administered in a marriage and therefore will lack value their relationships with others thus may lead to promiscuity. This explains the increase in the spread of HIVE/AIDS especially among teenagers in Kenya today. * Children of divorce, in general, seem to have less commitment to the ideal of lifelong marriage than children from intact marriages.
Experiencing their parents ‘divorce tends to undermine their faith in marital permanence so they are more likely to leave an unsatisfying relationship than hang in and try to improve it. In addition, children of divorce have greater difficulty trusting people, including a spouse. Perhaps for these reasons, children of divorce are more likely to live with a boyfriend or girlfriend before making a decision to marry. However, living together before marriage, or cohabiting, is not an effective way to increase your odds of success in marriage, and it may even increase the chances of eventual divorce.
In conclusion parents should consider how children might feel about their current marriage and how aware they may be oftener marital problems, how your children’s daily lives might change because of separation and divorce, the emotions their children might feel, the personal characteristics of their children that may affect how well they adjust to a separation. QUESTION SEVEN Like the divorce scenario, children whose parents are married but always us also get affected in the long run. Children whose parents are ever busy may not necessarily suffer from physical poverty but will suffer from moral poverty. Since the parents have no time for the children, they lack to instill values upon their children in turn these children will look for guidance from other people who may mislead them. * Parents who have no time for their children send them to boarding schools or to stay with other relatives in order to escape from their parental roles. These affect the child’s behavior in that; in school they mix up with other children from different backgrounds ND may acquire bad behavioral habits.